Юрий Белк
PTSD. Defeat yourself
Prologue
There will be no medical terms or medications that can be prescribed to treat PTSD. This book is a piece of advice from personal experience.
Just like I did.
I've suffered and still suffer from it myself, and you may find this book useful. But do not take this book as something miraculous.
Life is a constant challenge, and sometimes we do not know what difficulties await us in the future
But it is difficult to deal with this, because one person cannot change the world, but you can prepare for new difficulties by setting yourself up psychologically
The main thing is the mood in life. If you are in the mood for a good thing, then it is more likely to happen, perhaps, but it will happen.
If you are constantly attuned to bad things, then it is most likely to happen, because the negative, as a rule, according to the law of life, happens more often, although, on the other hand, there is no absolute bad or absolutely good event in life.
Firstly, there are no clear criteria that can distinguish them so binary, and secondly, even if there are criteria, then we need qualified judges of life who can determine what is good and what is bad
For this reason, it is impossible to determine that the rain that is falling is bad. For example, for a shepherd or a person who is in an open area without shelter or protection, this is bad, but for a farmer who grows crops, it is good
And so, there is no perfectly good or perfectly bad event. It all depends on the viewing angle or angle.
Another example.
If you shoot your face from different angles, that is, take a selfie, then it will be different and will transmit different images of you
For example, a photo taken below the chin makes us look older, while a photo taken above makes us look younger.
We should try to look for the good in any business, but if there is no possibility, then abstract.
Upset or not, what to understand, I must say that PTSD changes a person, sometimes beyond recognition. And what metamorphoses in theонце end this will lead to, no one knows and can not know.
Perhaps I will say a very unpleasant thing, that PTSD can not be completely cured, you can suppress the symptoms. We are dealing with the human psyche, and this is not a splinter, it is simply impossible to remove it from memory and forget it completely. But you and I will try to figure it out, we will try.
I've considered writing a book like this many times, but I've always put it off, but I've finally come to the conclusion that not sharing my experience or thoughts would be unfair to those who might benefit from it.
If this book will help at least one person, then I did not write it in vain.
Whoever needs it will find a way to read this book.
There is no goal to make money on this book, especially since I don't expect big sales, if two people buy it, I will probably кому-тоhelp someone.
The book is made consciously thin, which would be the most salt, important, without water. No one has much extra time to read thick textbook publications, after finishing which you can get another little PTSD.
I will probably make changes or additions over time, but I believe that if the author could not write the book from the first time, and corrects the book an infinite number of times, this is not normal, it is not fair to the reader and to himself.
I believe that the first thought or idea that comes to mind is the most honest one.
Please understand and forgive me if something is wrong in the book.
You may need a few lines of new thoughts from the entire text, which will eventually change your attitude to PTSD and help you.
The book may also be useful for those who live close to someone who has PTSD.
It is not necessary to think that this syndrome appears only after the war, it also manifests itself after diseases suffered, catastrophes experienced, and the loss of loved ones and other events that we are not used to in ordinary life, and often try not to talk about it.
It is the inability to listen to each other that is the cause of many problems, in particular PTSD.
Unwillingness, or rather, inability.
Modern man is super-egoistic, this is the scourge of modernity. This is what movies, media, and other behavioral factors that we encounter in movies, songs, and other sources of mass mind control have made us so
Humanity first invented radio, but filled it with music. I don't mind music, but when all information is replaced by music on the air, this, of course, leads to a degradation of thinking in listeners, their brain is simplified in cognitive neural connections. If you listen to all the FM radio stations, then it's all music, if there are any talk radio stations, then they are clearly not talking about philosophical matters.
Humanity invented television, but filled it with clips and shows. I don't mind shows and music videos, but if you fill the entire broadcast with them, then the same consequences occur as after listening to music on the radio all the time.
Humanity invented the Internet as a means of instant communication and sharing information in a split second around the world. But we filled it with funny videos and memes, the result is the same, or rather, the consequences.
What matters is not the method of transmission, but what we transmit in this way.
After all, you can build a church with an axe, or you can do you know what.
I absolutely do not claim to be the only and sufficient book in the section of diagnosis and treatment of PTSD in my country.
At the end of the book, there is a list of references that you can study. I have always believed that in order to understand at least a minimal amount of any issue, you need to read at least three books on one topic, and preferably more.
This book is just an attempt to understand ourselves, to get to know ourselves.
In general, you need to be able to talk to yourself.
What's it?
To begin with, PTSD is mistakenly classified as a wartime psychological trauma. In fact, it can occur in anyone, even in a dog that the owner scares with a stick every day, whichwill hurtit, or in a child who needs to remove a tooth and hears screams from the office of other patients. The degree of PTSD differs and the reason that caused it.
What does official medicine say about the definition of PTSD?
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a severe mental condition that occurs as a result of a single or repeated event that has a super – strong negative impact on the individual's psyche.
The inability to stop the negative impact on the psyche worsens the situation. That is, PTSD develops according to the most negative scenario when the factor causing this condition cannot be stopped. The feeling of helplessness emasculates the human psyche.
If you do not treat it or do not accept the appropriate conclusions, then the problem may worsen and go from psychological to criminal, that is, criminal.
This is what we will do so that PTSD remains just a nuisance and no longer poses a threat to you and your loved ones
The very realization of this important point is half the solution to the problem.
For example, a very unpleasant example, but very strongly characterizing.
When a person who drinks alcohol considers himself normal, the problem will not be solved
Recognizing the problem is already a good thing
Looking ahead, I can say to those who are in a hurry and can't read the book completely.
The main rule is that you accept yourself as a new person after the ordeal.
Being determines consciousness, so it is impossible not to change in a crazy environment full of trials and pain. From this point on, you need to accept the new self, get to know the new self, learn to talk to the new self, negotiate with it. That is, with you, but with your alter ego, who has become different.
What does science say?
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a mental condition that develops in response to experiencing or witnessing a traumatic event involving a threat to life or safety.
Causes of PTSD
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can develop as a result of experiencing or witnessing traumatic events.
The main causes of PTSD include the following events:
Military actions: participation in combat operations as an active army or combatant. At the same time, the degree of PTSD can be completely different for everyone. The reason is simple, because everyone's war is different. It is different for even two people who are sitting together in the same trench. There are many reasons, one of which is that there are no people with the same moral and physical fitness, and some people still differ from each other, so they perceive what is happening differently. After such events, a person can experience PTSD for quite a long time, and at times it returns in the form of flashbacks to varying degrees, and more often it is impossible to completely part with this problem, you can smooth it out. But complex auto-training sessions, yoga and the presence of favorable people nearby will help to get rid of bad memories. This type of PTSD is different from other topics, because it is more prolonged than just being a victim of disasters, for example, which usually passes within a few hours, and rescuers save. Military men follow orders.
Sexual assault: This book won't cover this type of PTSD, but I think everyone understands.
Physical violence: a person always strives for parity of forces, but since it is different for everyone, conflicts are sometimes inevitable from time to time in the educational, work and even in the family environment. The victims of such violence can be absolutely anyone, including boxing champions, because a group attack in this case will not save a person much, or an attack by a person with a gun on a strong but unarmed person. All 1001+ techniques against weapons don't always work, especially if the attacker is far away from you, and physically he can shoot before you get close to him to show him one of the 1001+ techniques in combat sambo or Aikido.
Here you can either run away or calm down with words, because your opponent can be adequate at this time.
Accidents: this is a fairly large range of accidents, such as accidents, man-made and domestic fires, electric shocks, and so on. Usually, such events occur unexpectedly, and a person is simply not often ready for them. As they say in such cases – "I didn't have time to get scared", but everything is individual, and often this later leads to various phobias that need to be treated with the help of psychotherapists.
Natural disasters: hurricanes, earthquakes, floods, and other natural disasters can not only damage a person's psyche, but also make them disabled, which can make the situation worse and lead to secondary PTSD. To avoid such problems, it is advisable to monitor the weather forecast, prepare in advance with food supplies and do not leave the shelter unless absolutely necessary. Food supplies should include medical supplies for all kinds of assistance, communication and evacuation equipment, such as boats, flashlights, helmets, boots, sleeping bags and matches.
Death or loss of a loved one: a person is mortal, and sometimes suddenly. Sometimes it is possible to save a person, sometimes it is impossible. This is always a great loss for your loved ones, and the book will describe how to deal with it and what to expect.
Illness or severe medical procedures: it is always unpleasant to get sick, and this can be a difficult test for both the patient and loved ones. A huge number of diseases that lead to temporary or permanent immobility, restricted movement, general disability, confusion of mind, as, for example, after a stroke, and many other things that can cause not only PTSD in the patient, but also in the family. I am preparing a separate book about this case of PTSD, which will be devoted to rehabilitation, and I will share my best practices after severe and complex disability by my own example, and how to live with chronic diseases and not get angry at the world around me. The book is still in development, follow the latest updates by subscribing to the author Yuri Belk in the description of the book, if, of course, you will be interested and need it
Evidence of violence: seeing violent actions, even if not against yourself, but towards your loved ones, can sometimes lead to even more PTSD, and then you need to work with this for a long time, but all individually.
Symptoms of PTSD can manifest themselves in the form of feelings and anxieties, when a person begins to scroll through the events that have happened or this period of life in his head. They can start at the most inopportune moment. If, for example, you were once a victim of a severe flood and survived only by a miracle, then TV shows with floods, even if in another part of the world, can cause you a flashback, and most likely they will.
It is necessary to be treated by professional psychotherapists.
But remember, no one but yourself knows your life well, so you can best help yourself. But you should always have good friends around who will tell you what you are doing wrong, and not try to constantly flatter you. Flattery is deception, and people often do this only badly to a person, because PTSD is a change in the psyche, and embellishing events and behavior, instead of rational criticism, will only consolidate negative trigger points, and a person will consider it normal that everything is fine, calm down.
