Алексей Деловаров
Get out of the "To be busy as a bee"

"It is impossible to solve the problem at the same level as it occurred. You need to get above this problem by moving up to the next level."– Albert Einstein

That's right, said old Einstein in his catchphrase. The purpose of this book is to help you understand the current level of problems in life that you have, and raise to the next level to solve them.

We live in an amazing time when ancient knowledge, religious teachings and science are beginning to intertwine. By collecting and practically using information at the intersection of these sources, you can get amazing results.

The book is written in simple language. If you are an inveterate materialist, then it will be difficult to go beyond your own picture of the world when reading.  If you assume that there is more to the world than we can see and feel , then this book will come in handy.

A materialist is a person who treats reality purely practically, rationally, denies everything ideal, sublime, cares about benefits, and is absorbed in material interests.

Many concepts in the book will be given on faith, since proofs can take several dozen books of heavy volume. If desired, each reader can find the necessary evidence in open sources independently, as the author has collected, compared and analyzed them for more than 25 years, based on traditional, alternative knowledge and sound logic.

This book has a thesis structure that allowed the author to highlight many of the aspects of life that require attention. Each chapter should be perceived as a concise "curriculum" that involves further self-education using additional sources of information. The list of literary sources used by the author will be presented at the end of the work. The book will also periodically contain references to additional sources of information on issues where the author does not have sufficient competence to explain them in detail.

About the author

Hello, dear Reader! My name is Alexey Delovarov and I am the author of this book.An avenger and entrepreneur, mis not 48 yearsold.

In 2001, he graduated from the University, Faculty of Computer Engineering. I started my career as an ordinary electronics engineer in a post-Soviet research institute in the nineties, when my salary was delayed for 9-12 months.

Gradually, being engaged in self-development and periodically changing jobsу, "grew" to the director of production of security systems in one of the private companies.

Next, I decided to try my hand seriously, then a business idea turned up in time. In general, I took up my own business in the development and production of electronic sports equipment. Over time, the project developed so much that some of the equipment produced was exported to Europe, America, and Africa. The annual production turnover exceeded $1 million.

Now I have several successful online and offline projects. In this book, I would like to share with the reader a fairly rich experience of self-development, which I received, including through entrepreneurial activity. Encourage and motivate you to do great things!

Chapter 1. Crisis is a necessity

A crisis is a point at which a person's current life beliefs become an obstacle in their path.

A crisis is the lowest point on the sinusoid of life. It is usually accompanied by an acute lack of resources, friction in relationships: personal, with relatives or business partners. Each of us has probably experienced various crises, and the author is no exception.

It is important to note that there is only one worthy way out of the crisis – the path of self-development. The very bottom that we periodically find ourselves at should be the starting point for growth. I believe that this is the best way to view the crisis . Despondency and depression are the worst course of action in difficult times.

To get out of the crisis relatively quickly, you need to conduct a deep analytical work on yourself and understand the reason why everything went wrong. I recommend that you start by revising your beliefs, as there is a high probability that they led to the current situation. Changing your beliefs is not an instantaneous process, but it can help you get out of a crisis quickly and profitably.

So it usually turns out that our main human growth – technological, scientific, intellectual or spiritual – occurs at critical times, when we run into a dead end, when resources are running out. This can be observed both in individuals and in entire countries.

If you change the attitude to the crisis and to the problems that usually arise during a difficult period, then it is probably worth considering this time more in a positive aspect than in a negative one. After all, it is at such moments that opportunities for growth open up, the main thing is to learn to see them.

Paradoxically, it is very difficult and almost impossible to develop in comfortable conditions. Indeed, why waste energy on any changes if everything is fine as it is?

We are human beings, we live on the planet Earth, in a certain social structure. I will not intentionally use standard terms and concepts to accurately describe the human environment.

It doesn't matter who and where each of us lives. It can be a city, a town, a single life, or a small settlement in the forest or mountains, on an island or on the mainland. If you feel like a squirrel in a wheel , you need to start getting out of it.

I will not build illusions, this process is slow and not easy. But there is also good news: if the problem is visible, and we really feel a constantly recurring "Groundhog day" in our lives, a vicious circle without the dynamics of positive changes and growth – this means that part of the work has already been done. Unfortunately, most people are not aware of the problem, so they can spin in the wheel of life all their lives. Well, are you ready to go to the exit? Then let's get started.

Chapter 2. Take responsibility for your Life

The first thing you need to do is say mentally: "Stop", stop the flow of thoughts in your head for a while and prepare for further actions. We do the following actions mentally. This will help you initially structure your current worldview (beliefs) and gradually correct it. After all, it led us to a dead end, to the unpleasant state where we are now. This must be clearly understood.

We mentally accept responsibility for ourselves and our actions. It is necessary to come to a firm belief that your life depends only on you. This is one of the axioms I discussed at the beginning of this book. This axiom must be taken on faith, that is, without proof. Probably, a firm confidence in this statement will not appear immediately. Regular training is necessary. The mind will resist the new approach-this is normal. But if you already admit that you are ready to take responsibility for yourself, admit that you can manage your life-great, consider that the beginning of positive changes has been laid.

And so. Now, on the morning of every day, starting today, we affirm that my life is in my hands, I am the master (mistress) of my life. If you act aggressively, then in a few days this statement will be strengthened in your head, and then appropriate actions will follow. Soon you will notice them, daily actions that are not typical of your usual behavior.

It will all start with the smallest details. For example, if you have never used a washing machine or iron (this example is more likely to apply to men), you may take on washing and ironing your clothes. Yes, it is with small things that changes begin. Having washed and ironed your clothes, you have assumed the responsibility of walking around in clean clothes without counting on anyone.

Rate your feelings. Do you feel a certain independence? Now you don't need to ask anyone for help with household chores, you have a new skill, a new resource.

The example with the washing machine and iron is exaggerated, but I think you understand the point. In life, you need to constantly acquire new skills and abilities, thereby creating personal resources that you can use in various life situations, including for generating income. The more skills and abilities you have, the more likely you are to take your rightful place in the sun.

There is a saying "Live forever, learn forever". People have been aware of the need for constant development since ancient times. In our time, this need is becoming particularly acute. With each skill we acquire, we become stronger and freer.

Adjusting your thinking

Thinking, or rather beliefs, determine the direction of our movement through life. If we find ourselves in a dead end, it is only because of our beliefs that we have got there. You need to change them to get out of the vicious circle of incomprehensible problems.

As you know, beliefs in a person are formed in early childhood, up to five or seven years, and then used in conscious life automatically. They are considered axioms and do not require proof. Beliefs are hardwired into our minds, like programs that run automatically. Often we don't even know where they came from, because it happened a long time ago, in early childhood.

The task of adjustment is to capture and question beliefs, because there is a chance that some of them may be wrong. Why are they wrong? It's simple: where did we get these beliefs from? Most likely, the information was received from parents, grandparents, next of kin, kindergarten teachers or teachers at school, friends, and so on.

It is impossible to say for sure whether all the formed beliefs are correct. Most likely, some of them will be wrong, because our parents, grandparents, educators and teachers also formed their own beliefs in early childhood and under the influence of similar information channels.

When transmitting information from person to person, distortions inevitably occur and errors accumulate that need to be corrected. The fewer mistakes in beliefs, the fewer problems in life.

Changing your beliefs is not an easy task. This process can take weeks, months, or even years. But believe me, it's worth it.

At the first stage, it is important to realize that you have erroneous beliefs. And it is necessary to change them in order to achieve better results than now.

When we start to doubt something, we start looking for information that will confirm or refute our assumptions. Therefore, it is important to always assume that we are not moving exactly in the direction that we need to move in life. And this direction needs to be adjusted periodically.

The plane is flying on a certain course, on a very clear trajectory. But in 90-95% of the flight time, the plane deviates from the trajectory. And yet, thanks to the work of the crew and the appropriate course adjustment equipment, it arrives at its destination.

Chapter 3. Where to get the strength to leave or how do we work?

Alternative worldview

But what if everything in the world works and does not happen exactly as we think, as our parents, teachers, and teachers told us?

Scientists periodically discover smaller and smaller particles. And behind them, once again, the void-waves, energy. Everything in the universe is made up of energy. Everything vibrates at certain frequencies.

I suggest we take a broader look at the world around us. Most people believe that there is only what we see or feel. If we don't feel something, then it doesn't exist. This approach is gradually driving the whole of humanity into a dead end. The logic of the material world is increasingly working on the edge of absurdity.

I'll give you a business example. Looking at the charter of almost any manufacturing or commercial company, you can see that the main goal of its activities is to achieve maximum economic efficiency and profitability. If an enterprise produces bread, then it should strive to produce more and as cheaply as possible. Every manufacturing or commercial organization should strive to constantly expand its sales market. In other words, the bakery is interested in increasing the number of consumers of its products, cafes and restaurants are interested in the maximum flow of visitors to these establishments. Everything seems to be logical and normal.

Let's continue the analogy that goes beyond moral norms (which also do not stand still and are gradually being eroded), but from the point of view of commerce, everything is good, from the point of view of the law, everything is legal. Clinics and hospitals, respectively, should be interested in an ever-growing number of patients, and manufacturers of medicines, alcohol, and tobacco should also strive to increase profits. Yes, the example is simplified, but I think you understand the logic. If everyone chases only for profit (the modern model of society offers exactly this) without taking into account other factors, sometimes more significant than profit, sooner or later society will fall into a trap from which it will be difficult to get out. If a commercial or manufacturing company does not strive to increase profits, it will lose its competitive advantage and eventually go bankrupt. The circle is complete.

I believe that such a picture of the world is extremely limited. The world is more diverse than we think and what we see on the material plane. We don't see viruses, do we? And they can easily knock a person down, and even throw entire continents into chaos!

Relatively recently, electomagnetic waves were discovered. They are invisible, and we cannot sense them without special devices. But this fact does not prevent the operation of many electronic devices such as televisions, microwave ovens, smartphones, etc. Billions of people use electronic gadgets every day around the world.

Therefore, we can assume that not everything is open yet. Most likely, this is due to the fact that the scientific and technological base is currently insufficient to obtain new knowledge. But after a while, new discoveries, gadgets, and vehicles that work on new principles will definitely appear. And the process is probably endless.

If we allow something more to exist, it increases our potential and our capabilities.

I will not go into details related to ancient knowledge and advanced scientific discoveries, since I am not an expert in this field. More detailed information on this topic can be found in various publications. Many competent specialists create videos, write books, and offer a variety of practices related to energy and the structure of the universe and Man.

Let's just assume that a person consists not only of a physical body that we can see, but also of several invisible bodies. In addition, it is permeated by energy flows that come from space and the earth, providing energy recharge.

Now we will be interested in the fact that the human body receives energy from the earth and space. At the same time, the quality and amount of energy absorbed depends on many factors, such as a person's emotional and physical state, nutrition, lifestyle and thinking, etc.

The more energy a person has, the more opportunities they have. The amount of energy can be estimated by feeling. I'm sure you've noticed that there are days when things don't go the way you want: a bad mood, no energy for anything to do. But it happens the other way around: in the morning, the weather is great, the mood is great, you want to do something, create something. This is a clear indicator of small and large energy levels.

"Cleaning service"

Avoiding alcohol, tobacco, coffee, and junk food is the first step to cleansing your body and boosting your energy levels.

To break out of the usual cycle of events, you need a significant reserve of strength. Bad habits not only take away energy, but also cause direct harm to health. Usually, the average person only has enough energy to get to work, return home, relax on Friday evening and relax on the weekend. On Monday, the circle closes.

Over the years or decades of this lifestyle, the mind has become accustomed to the current state of affairs and will try to preserve it to the last. For him, this is a comfortable state. If you want to change the daily course of events, you will have to overcome the resistance of the mind and offer it an alternative program of action. At this point, you will need free energy or willpower, whatever you want to call it.

Now let's move on to mental cleansing, which is just as important. Negative states and psychological problems also negatively affect the reserves of free energy. First of all, you need to start filtering the information that enters the brain. The main channels through which unnecessary and often toxic information is received are the Internet and television.

More diverse content is available on the Internet. If you want, you can find useful information. In the TV, information flows mostly of the same type, switching channels usually does not help too much. Do you remember the puzzle you solved as a child? No matter how much you added, subtracted, or divided in a pre-prepared mathematical example, the result was always predictable. The author of the puzzle initially constructed the construction of the example in such a way that no matter what actions we took, they led to the same result. So it is on TV: whatever we watch, the result is pre-programmed by the "authors".

I recommend turning off the TV permanently, I haven't watched it for many years and I think that I didn't lose anything from this, but rather gained extra time to work on myself. You have to use your phone and computer, but it is better to subject incoming content to strict personal censorship. Limit the flow of obviously unnecessary and harmful information that enters your head and generates destructive thoughts. Turn off social networks or keep your presence in them to a minimum.

Start looking for really valuable information. From my experience, I can say that it is enough in open sources, on well-known sites and video hosting sites. But, like everything valuable, it does not lie on the surface, it has to be extracted from the depths.

Chapter 4. Self-development is THE WAY OUT

The world where we all live is neutral in itself. It's not bad or bad, it just exists. Only our subjective assessment gives it any color.

In fact, everything is logical. If some of us are unable to take responsibility for our own lives, then the metaphorical matrix will take over the "care" in exchange for free energy. In simple words, the matrix will dictate to these people what to do and how to live. This is the squirrel wheel.

If we take responsibility for our future, and accordingly control our own lives on our own, the "matrix" will definitely recede. She will agree with our firm decision to be the master of her life. It can't be any other way, that's the way the world works.

What if the World around us is a simulator, a simulator that helps us grow and evolve? Yes, we all make mistakes, some more often, some less often. This is probably why we are here – to develop through trial and error, the only way to gain the necessary experience and draw the appropriate conclusions in order to develop further. Evolution is two steps forward, one step back, and this process is apparently endless.

To correct your mistakes and move on, first you need to see and recognize these mistakes. This is often a problem.

About pride, show-offs, arrogance

In this case, I suggest that we consider these words synonymous. I think the reader understands what I mean.

Pride (the desire for dominance) is a defense mechanism for survival in the wild, given to us – people initially. The wild conditions of life gradually became not so wild, but pride remains in many of us to this day.

Now pride is more of a hindrance than a benefit. It blocks the development of a person, because it creates the illusion of perfection, prevents the acceptance of criticism and other people's opinions, leads to arrogance, envy and isolation, and also prevents them from adequately evaluating their capabilities, which leads to impossible tasks and failures.

There are many types of pride. You can read about this in specialized literature. I will give you a simple example of one of them – show-offs. This is most noticeable in adolescents. The example concerns my daughter.

Our school is not within walking distance, we usually drove her and her spouse in one of the cars around the situation. From time to time, my daughter refused to go with one of us by car. To the question: "Do you need a ride?", I answered – "I'll do it myself!". Independence is certainly good, but she usually refused at those moments when I or my spouse went to the school's location on business. In this example, I want to show the blocking of the brain by pride to find optimal solutions.

When the daughter became older (the level of show-offs with growing up usually decreases), studying at the university, the question: "Do you need a ride?" – almost never refuses.

According to my observations, for yourself, for your loved ones-with normal human development, usually pride should go away with age (self-development practices will help speed up this process), but healthy ambitions to achieve goals should remain.

How pride slows down development:

l The Illusion of Perfection: A person with pride believes that he has already reached the maximum of his capabilities, and ceases to strive for development and training.

l Rejection of criticism: Pride makes a person vulnerable to criticism and other opinions, because their "ideality" does not allow them to recognize other people's ideas and positions.

l Arrogance and devaluation of others: A proud person exaggerates his own achievements and devalues the success of others, seeing in them only competitors, which leads to isolation.

l Incorrect assessment of opportunities: Pride prevents you from soberly assessing your strength, which leads to the fact that a person takes on impossible tasks, and their failure causes failures.

l Unwillingness to change: Pride can be a defense mechanism that prevents a person from changing their outdated beliefs and going beyond what they are used to, which makes them stuck in the past.

l Negative emotions: The feeling of pride is often accompanied by envy, anger and resentment, which destroys the personality and hinders personal growth.

It is important to distinguish pride from healthy pride and ambition, which is a positive feeling and acts as a springboard for personal growth. Pride helps to strive for new goals, enjoy the success of others and strive for the best, while pride destroys and slows down.

Chapter 5. Self-development, where to start?

From negative to positive

The transition from negative thinking to positive thinking will greatly simplify and speed up the exit from the vicious circle of hopelessness. Positive thinking implies the ability to see opportunities in any situation, while negative thinking, on the contrary, focuses on shortcomings.

If you don't have enough money right now, don't dwell on it. Saving money will not solve your financial problem in a coordinated way. Look for ways to increase your income!

Try to capture your emotional state when you are trying to save money on something. Do you feel something constrict inside you? These clamps block the normal flow of energy, including monetary energy.

Q now imagine that you started making good money, and now you have enough money for everything. Compare this emotional state with the previous one. Feel the difference?

Keys to success

Investing in yourself is a key factor for success. No one is born with ready-made skills, they are acquired through experience and effort. From early childhood, we learn to walk and talk, making a huge effort for the baby. Personal growth contributes to the creation of an ideal lifestyle.

To achieve financial well-being and success, continuous training is necessary. It is important to set goals that are aimed at continuous development, and not at striving for the ideal. Live forever, learn forever-these are not empty words.

Thomas Edison claimed that in achieving success, 99% is hard work and only 1% is inspiration.

Selecting a goal

To achieve a goal, you need to "look" at it, not at the means to achieve it. The mind automatically finds the optimal path to the goal. It is important to choose your goal so that it matches your internal settings and interests. Often goals are imposed on us by society with constant advertising of lifestyle standards. Most of them are false.

Your goals and desires are always inside us, since childhood. It is important to see them or remember them. For example, I've always wanted to be an entrepreneur, develop and produce something. Even at school, I used to think about how trucks with my goods were moving along the highway. And so it happened, while still studying at the university, I began to build and sell computers. A few years later, he opened an individual entrepreneur, assembled a team of engineers, and began developing and manufacturing custom electronics. To this day, I am still looking for and testing new promising business areas. Over time, I have become more attracted to creative projects.

Entrepreneurship is a great simulator for self-development and achieving your own goals. This will be covered in a whole chapter below.

Spend some time in silence, think about what you have always wanted, what goals and desires inspire you, give you ease and calmness?

The influence of the unconscious on goal achievement

The unconscious mind can keep you from reaching the wrong goal in three ways: through loss of attention, memory, and interest, impaired motor function, and stress. Examples of unconscious resistance include laziness, forgetfulness, and health problems.

Improving your skills

Personal growth can be achieved through improving professional competence. Effective time management is a key element of self-development.

Mentor role

With a mentor, the self-development process is usually faster and more efficient. A mentor is a person who is ready to pass on their knowledge and experience from the bottom of their heart. Being prepared to work with a mentor and using their knowledge and experience correctly is important for personal growth.

Investing in your own self-development

Educationalquizzes and books can significantly help in self-development and increase income.

High-quality training is available not only in the traditional form, but also в интернете online.

Time for yourself

It is important to set aside time to achieve personal goals. Regular work on yourself is necessary for a full life. Takeремя для 30 minutes to two hours a day for internal reflection, setting goals, and planning.

Creative opportunities

Get creative. Getting out of your comfort zone promotes personal growth. Examples of creative activities: writing literary works, learning to play a musicalм instrumentе, and learning a foreign languageов.

Health

A healthy lifestyle is based on physical and mental well-being. Recommendations: healthy diet, regular exercise, reading, writing, logical thinking trainingя.

Communication

Socialization is important for health and success. Implementing collective projects andcommunicating with friends and family encourages positive thinking and increases productivity.

Planand manage and track your progress

Drawing up a plan and tracking the progress of self-development is necessary to capture positive trends. Methods of measuring personal growth also help you evaluate, positive changes in your life.

Chapter 6. "Cheap Dopamine"

What is dopamine?

Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that plays an important role in regulating mood, motivation, and pleasure. It is produced in the human body in response to pleasant stimuli, such as food, sex, achievements, etc.

"Cheap dopamine" is a quick and easy way to get pleasure from sources such as social networks, fast food, or computer games that do not provide long-term satisfaction and cause addiction. This term is contrasted with "expensive dopamine", which is produced as a result of long-term, diligent activities, such as studying or sports. In order not to fall into the "dopamine pit", it is necessary to maintain a balance, giving preference to more "expensive" dopamine.

Sources of "cheap dopamine"

– Alcohol, drug, and or otherе psychoactiveе substances.

– Entertainment: ideallyplaying games, social media, watching TV shows and short videos.

– Food: sweets, fast food and other products with a high sugar content.

–Zart games, shopaholism, etc.

What is the problem with "cheap dopamine"?

Fast gettingused to. Msg gets used to the constant easy enjoyment. This condition reduces motivation and interest in activities that require effort and time (study, sports, creativity), causing addiction, anxiety, stress and, ultimately,the dopamine pit, when the usual stimuli stop bringing joy.

A "dopamine pit" is a condition where the brain defends itself against over-stimulation, reducing the ability to enjoy ordinary things and losing motivation. This is due to an excess of "cheap" dopamine obtained from quick pleasures, such as social networks or games, which leads to a decrease in "expensive" dopamine from real achievements. To get out of the pit, it is recommended to reduce the time spent on gadgets, play sports and hobbies, and break down large tasks into small ones.

How to get out of the dopamine pit?

Cut back on "cheap" dopamine. Limit your time on social networks, games, and other sources of quick fun. Use timers or delete apps temporarily.

Increase "expensive dopamine"

– Play sports: Physical activity helps restore dopamine balance.

– Find a hobby: Find off-screen activities, such as drawing, music, or other hobbies.

– Spend time with your loved ones: Communication with loved ones also contributes to the production of dopamine.

– Spend time in nature: Walking in the fresh air and sunlight have a positive effect on your mood.

– Practice "digital detox".

– Set aside at least an hour a day to completely abandon gadgets.

– Balanced nutrition. Consume tyrosine-rich foods such as fish, meat, eggs, and nuts to maintain normal dopamine levels.

– Split up tasks. Divide big goals into small steps. Each completed task will bring a small sense of satisfaction and motivate you to move on.

– A cold shower can give you a sharp boost of dopamine and help you wake up.

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