Memory: how to remember everything
Alexey Goldman

© Alexey Goldman, 2025

ISBN 978-5-0068-0091-5

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ALEXEY GOLDMAN

Memory: how to remember everything

Chapter 1: Why We Forget Our Keys (And That’s Okay!)

«Hello there! Let’s be honest for a second: where are your keys right now? Are they proudly resting in their designated spot? Or… are they playing hide-and-seek with you again? And what about the name of your new neighbor, the one you literally just heard yesterday? Has it vanished into thin air as if it never existed? Sound familiar?

Before you start beating yourself up about it, hear this: forgetting is completely normal. Yes, you heard that right. Your brain isn’t broken, and you’re not necessarily getting more scatterbrained with age (well, not just because of that!). This is simply how your memory operates in the modern world. Picture a little postman running around inside your head. He has a small delivery bag (that’s your «working memory» – what’s on your mind right now) and a massive, slightly messy warehouse (that’s your «long-term memory» – all your knowledge and experiences).

Every day, this postman is bombarded with an avalanche of letters, packages, and telegrams – everything you see, hear, think, and feel. And here’s why keys and names sometimes get «lost in the mail»:

«Didn’t make it into the bag» (Lack of Attention): This is the most common reason! You put your keys down on the console table, but at that very moment, you’re thinking about work, your grocery list, or an argument on social media. Your «postman» was busy with another «package» and simply… didn’t notice where the keys went. You didn’t remember because you didn’t pay real attention.

«The Postman is in a rush» (Stress or Hurry): When you’re running late, feeling stressed, or trying to do a hundred things at once, your internal postman doesn’t have time to sort the packages neatly. He just grabs whatever he can and tosses it into the warehouse haphazardly. Finding something specific later becomes a real challenge!

«The Postman is exhausted» (Fatigue or Lack of Sleep): If you didn’t get enough sleep or are just dead tired, your postman doesn’t have the energy to carry heavy packages. He’s barely dragging his feet. Naturally, he drops things along the way or puts them in the wrong place.

«The warehouse address can’t be found» (Weak connection or lack of meaning): The information made it to the warehouse, but it’s lying in a dark corner without a label. Why? Because it was boring (like your insurance policy number), confusing, or you didn’t connect it to something you already know (for example, the name «Maxim» didn’t bring to mind a Maxim you know or the word «maximum»). There’s no hook to hang it on!

The good news: By understanding these «memory thieves,» we can fight back! This book isn’t a magic pill; it’s your personal «guide to organizing your warehouse» and a «training program for your postman.» We will learn how to:

Consciously place important things into the «bag» (attention!).

Create vivid, funny, or unusual «address labels» in the warehouse for important information (associations).

Help the postman work more efficiently, even when he’s tired or in a hurry (simple techniques).

Find what you need in the warehouse quickly and without panic (recall).

The goal isn’t to remember ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING. That’s impossible and unnecessary! The goal is to reliably remember what TRULY matters to you: where your keys are, people’s names, important tasks, the main ideas from a book, the recipe for your favorite pie.

(Practice – Easy and judgment-free)

Let’s give it a try right now! Exercise: «Spotting the Thieves»

Grab a pen or open the notes app on your phone.

Think of 3 things you forgot in the last 2—3 days. It’s okay if they’re small things! (For example: where you put your glasses, what you meant to buy at the store, someone’s name, the topic of an online article you read).

Next to each forgotten item, try to guess which «thief» (attention, stress, fatigue, lack of connection) might be responsible. Don’t scold yourself! Just note: «Aha, when I forgot the milk, I was clearly rushing and thinking about something else,» or «My colleague’s name… well, I heard it in passing and didn’t even really look at them.»

Why do this? This is the first step toward mindfulness. You start to notice when and why your memory lets you down. That’s already half the battle toward improvement!

Important: No self-criticism! This is research, not an exam. Forgetting is normal. We’re just learning to do it less often with the important stuff.

So, remember the key takeaway from this chapter: Forgetting is normal. It’s not your fault; it’s a feature of how the brain works in our fast-paced world. But by knowing the «memory thieves,» we can outsmart them! In the following chapters, we’ll equip you with simple yet powerful tools so your internal postman works like a well-oiled machine and your memory warehouse is in perfect order. Are you ready to find your keys (and more) once and for all? Then turn the page!

Chapter 2: «I Remember-I Don’t Remember»: What Kind of Memory Do We Use Every Day?

In the last chapter, we met your internal Postman and his massive Warehouse. You now know that forgetting your keys or a name isn’t the end of the world – it’s just a signal about how the system operates. Today, we’ll figure out: what «departments» does this Warehouse even have? And which one do we need most in our daily lives?

Don’t worry, we won’t get bogged down in complex scientific terms! We’ll simply understand where and how best to «store» the things you want to remember long-term, and what to keep close at hand.

Let’s imagine our Memory Warehouse in a bit more detail. It has three main «workshops» that function differently:

1. «The Postman’s Bag» (What’s in your head RIGHT NOW):

This is a very small space! Like a tiny purse where the Postman can only fit 5—7 small items at a time.

What’s stored there: A phone number someone just gave you; a thought you want to say; what you’re looking for in a room (e.g., the remote).

Key feature: Information here only lasts about 15—30 seconds! If the Postman doesn’t manage to move it to the next workshop in time, it simply vanishes. It’s like writing on foggy glass – it fades quickly.

Why we need to know this: Because this is where all the problems with forgetting names (didn’t transfer it in time!) or thoughts («Wait, what was I going to say?») begin.

2. «The Main Warehouse» (What you know FOR THE LONG TERM):

This is the huge storage facility for all your experiences: your name, your mom’s birthday, how to ride a bike, your borscht recipe, your friends’ faces.

What’s stored there: Knowledge, skills, important memories, faces, names of loved ones, how to use a spoon.

Key feature: Information here can sit for years! But to find it, you need the right «address» or «label» (remember the key without a label from Chapter 1!). Access isn’t always instant.

Why we need to know this: This is our target for everything truly important! We want the names of new acquaintances, key ideas from a book, or the location of important documents to end up right here.

3. «The Autopilot Workshop» (What your body does ON ITS OWN):

This is a special department storing instructions for actions you perform «without thinking.»

What’s stored there: How to tie your shoes, brush your teeth, drive a car on a familiar route, play a chord on the guitar (if you’ve learned it).

Key feature: This is the memory of your body and habits. It’s very robust but works in the background. You don’t think about how to do it; you just do it.

Why we need to know this: To understand that some things are memorized through practice and repetition of movements, not through «cramming.»

(Focus on the problem: Why names and lists «vanish»)

Now, the main secret of why you so easily forget the names of new people or that list of 5 groceries you just made up in your head?

They only made it into «The Postman’s Bag»! You heard the name – it landed in the tiny purse. But the Postman was busy (you were looking at the person’s face, thinking about what to say next), and he didn’t have time or couldn’t transfer that name to the «Main Warehouse.» After 20 seconds, the name in the bag… evaporated!

No «label» or «address» was created for them in the Main Warehouse! Even if the name briefly touched the Main Warehouse, it fell into a dark corner without any identification. There’s no funny association (like in Chapter 1), no connection to the person’s face or an acquaintance with the same name. And when you want to recall it, you simply don’t know where to look.

Key idea: To remember something long-term (in the Main Warehouse), you need to consciously help the Postman transfer it from his little Bag and attach a vivid, clear «label» to the information.

Let’s practice right now! Exercise: «Hold It In Your Head»

Look around you. Pick 5 random objects you can see right now (e.g., mug, pen, pillow, window, phone). Write them down if you’re afraid you’ll forget the list for verification.

Now, close your eyes (or just look away) and try to HOLD those 5 objects in your mind («in the Postman’s Bag») for 30 seconds. You can repeat them to yourself: «Mug, pen, pillow, window, phone…»

After 30 seconds, open your eyes (or look back). Now, distract yourself for 1 minute. Get up, get some water, think about something else (e.g., what you’ll have for lunch).

After a minute, try to recall and write down (or say out loud) those 5 objects. Don’t peek at your first list!

Count how many items you remembered correctly.

What happened? Chances are, you didn’t remember all 5. Why? Because you were only holding them in «The Postman’s Bag.» You didn’t create strong connections or labels to transfer them to the Main Warehouse during those 30 seconds. When you got distracted, the information in the Bag started to fade.

Why is this useful? It clearly demonstrates the limits of our «working» memory and why it’s so crucial to consciously move important information further along. In the next chapters, we’ll learn how to do this easily!

(Chapter wrap-up – summary and bridge to the next)

So, remember the key takeaways from this chapter:

«The Postman’s Bag» (what’s in your head right now) is very small and unreliable. Information doesn’t last long there.

Our target is «The Main Warehouse» (long-term memory). That’s where we want to send everything important.

Names and lists vanish because they get stuck in the «Bag» or don’t get a label in the «Warehouse.»

Now that you know where important information needs to go, it’s time to learn how to help your Postman do this quickly and effectively! In the next chapter, we’ll discover the first and most powerful secret: how to SWITCH ON YOUR ATTENTION to even notice and «place in the bag» what you want to remember (like where you put your keys or the name of a new colleague).

Chapter 3: Secret #1: Switch On Your Attention! (Otherwise, Nothing Gets Recorded)

Hello! We now know where we want to send important information – to the reliable Main Warehouse. But there’s a problem: if the Postman doesn’t notice the package, he can’t pick it up and deliver it! This is exactly what often happens with keys, glasses, or the name of someone you’ve just been introduced to. To remember something, you first have to notice it. Truly notice it. This is our first and most important secret: Switch On Your Attention!

Why don’t we remember where we put our glasses? Because we didn’t notice the moment we did it!

Imagine: you come home, a bag in one hand, your phone in the other, your mind buzzing with the rest of the workday or an argument from a chat. You automatically take off your glasses and… put them down somewhere. Your internal Postman was busy with other «packages» (thoughts, sensations, tasks) at that moment. He simply didn’t register the action of «putting down the glasses.» There was no bright «Click!» in your consciousness. Therefore, when you need your glasses again, there isn’t even a hint on the Warehouse shelf of where they might have gone – because they were never sent there!

How to create that «Click!»? Two simple techniques:

Technique #1: «Focus for a Second»

What it is: Consciously saying out loud or mentally noting an action at the very moment you perform it with an important object or hear important information.

How to do it:

Putting down your keys? Say inside your head: «Putting keys on the console table by the door» (or mentally picture them there).

Someone introduced you? Look at them and mentally say: «His name is Mikhail» or «Mikhail, blue shirt.» You can also repeat the name aloud when you meet them: «Very nice to meet you, Mikhail!»

Setting a password? «Writing the password down in the blue notebook.»

Heard an important task? «Remember: call Maria before 3 PM.»

Why it works: This one-second pause and mental (or quiet) phrase forcibly engage your attention. It’s like shining a flashlight on the action. The Postman has to notice this package and take it into his Bag for further delivery to the Warehouse.

Technique #2: «The Pause Rule»

What it is: Literally *stop for 1—2 seconds* before you do something you want to remember (putting a thing down) or before you hear something important (a name).

How to do it:

Before putting down your phone/wallet/glasses: Stop. Take a micro-pause. Then put it in its place. This pause is enough to switch your consciousness off autopilot.

Before someone tells you their name: if you feel an introduction is coming – take a micro-pause, look at the person, get ready to listen. Don’t think about what you are going to say in that moment.

Why it works: The pause interrupts the flow of automatic actions or thoughts. It creates a tiny «window» for awareness to enter. The Postman gets the signal: «Attention! Something important is about to happen!»

Practice: «The Spy Game»

Ready to become an agent of your own memory? Your mission for today (or tomorrow if you’re reading this in the evening):

Choose ONE type of important small item you often lose or forget. For example:

Where you put your phone/keys/glasses?

Names of new people?

Where you put a document/remote?

One small task/idea you need to remember?

Apply the «Focus for a Second» technique or the «Pause Rule» (or both!) to this type of small thing every time you do it throughout the day. Do it consciously! Not on autopilot.

Putting down your keys? Say mentally «Keys on the console table» and take a micro-pause before letting go of them.

Someone introduced themselves? Say to yourself «Oksana,» pause before you respond, repeat the name aloud: «Nice to meet you, Oksana!»

In the evening, check: Did you remember where you put the item? Did you remember the name? Did you remember the task?

Note to yourself: How many times did it work? What was easier/harder?

Story: How Anna Stopped Losing Her Phone

Anna was constantly losing her phone around the house. It could be in the fridge, in her coat pocket, under a pillow. She would get angry at herself and waste tons of time searching. Then she started using the «Focus for a Second» technique. Every time she put her phone down anywhere (not just on the charger!), she would say: «Phone on the kitchen table» or «Phone in the blue bag.» Just one phrase! Within a couple of days, she noticed a difference. The search time dropped to zero. Anna’s Postman now always knows where to find the «Phone package» because she gave him clear instructions at the moment of delivery.

Chapter 4: Your First «Super-Skill»: The Memory Palace for a Grocery List (Yes, It’s That Simple!)

Hello! You’ve already learned how to «switch on your attention» and give your Postman clear signals. Well done! Now it’s time for your first real «memory super-skill.» Don’t be intimidated by the name «Memory Palace» – it might sound complicated, but it’s actually a simple and incredibly powerful tool that you can master in 10 minutes. And we’ll start with the most useful application: how to remember a grocery list WITHOUT writing it down on a piece of paper or in your phone!

What is a «Memory Palace»? (Simplest Explanation Ever!)

Imagine that your Main Memory Warehouse is a place you know well. For example, your apartment, your house, or even your route to work. You know it like the back of your hand! A «Memory Palace» is simply using this familiar place as a «map» for placing information.

How does it work? You mentally «place» the items you want to remember (products from your list) at specific spots (or «rooms») in this place. But you don’t just put them there; you do it in a BIG, FUNNY, and RIDICULOUS way! Why? Because your brain loves strange and unusual things! The Postman will definitely not forget to send such a «package» to the Warehouse and will easily find it later.

STEP-BY-STEP: Building Your First Palace (Using a kitchen and a grocery list as an example)

1. Choose Your «Palace» (A Familiar Place):

Start with something simple and very familiar. Your KITCHEN is perfect. You know exactly where everything is.

Other ideas for your first time: Your bedroom, the path from your front door to the couch, your bathroom.

2. Identify «Stations» (Spots for your «packages»):

Mentally walk through your kitchen. Choose 5—7 well-known objects or places that are always in the same spot. These will be your «shelves» for memorizing.

Example for a kitchen (go in order!):

Refrigerator (The first thing you see!)

Kitchen table

Stove/Oven

Sink

Cabinet with cereals/dishes (Pick one specific cabinet)

Extra: Microwave, window, chair.

3. Create FUNNY and VIVID Images for Each Item on Your List:

Here’s your shopping list: Milk, Bread, Apples, Chicken, Salt.

Now imagine each product as huge, alive, cheerful, and interacting with the «station» in your Palace (kitchen). The sillier, the better!

Milk on the Fridge: Imagine a HUGE, SMILING carton of milk hugging the refrigerator and joyfully shouting, «I’m home!»

Bread on the Table: Picture a loaf of bread in a superhero costume flying circles over the table, leaving a trail of breadcrumbs behind it.

Apples on the Stove: See three green apples frying like eggs on the burner! They’re happily jumping and sizzling: «It’s hot, hot!»

Chicken by the Sink: Imagine a chicken wearing rubber gloves and an apron, HARD AT WORK WASHING DISHES in your sink, humming a little tune.

Salt in the Cabinet: Picture a salt shaker BUILDING A FORTRESS OUT OF JARS inside the cabinet! It barks orders: «Line up quickly, my salty fortress!»

Why does this work like magic?

Familiar place (Kitchen): Already stored perfectly in your Main Warehouse. It’s a reliable «map.»

Funny/weird images: Your brain remembers unusual things 10 times better than ordinary ones! The Postman is delighted with such «packages.»

Order of stations: You follow a familiar route (fridge -> table -> stove -> sink -> cabinet), which helps you recall the list in order.

Engages your senses: You’re creating pictures (sight), sounds (sizzling, singing), action (hugging, flying, washing, building) – this «glues» the information on tightly.

Practice: «Build Your Palace in 5 Minutes!»

Grab a piece of paper or open your notes. Write down a simple list of 5 products: Milk, Eggs, Cheese, Tomatoes, Pasta. (Or make up your own mini-list).

Choose your familiar place (Kitchen? Hallway? Bathroom?).

Identify 5 «stations» in that place (walk through them in order!).

Come up with a SILLY and VIVID image for each product at its «station.» Don’t filter your imagination! The more absurd, the better. Example for «Eggs on the couch»: Imagine an egg in tiny slippers and with a newspaper, lounging on the couch!

Mentally «walk» through your Palace, looking at your list, and visualize each crazy scene.

Put the list aside. After 10—15 minutes (go do something else), try to mentally walk through your Palace stations and recall what’s «placed» there (which product and its image).

Check yourself against the list. Surprised? It works!

Story: Grandma Antonina and Her «Palace»

Grandma Antonina always went to the store with a list but often forgot it at home or lost her glasses to read it. Her grandson showed her the «Memory Palace.» She chose her living room (sofa, TV, window, flower on the windowsill, rug). Her list (tea, sugar, ready-made borscht, onions, newspaper) turned into: A GIGANTIC cup of tea dancing on the sofa; A bag of sugar building a sandcastle in front of the TV; A package of borscht watering the flower on the windowsill (she imagined the borscht pouring out!); An onion in sunglasses sunbathing on the windowsill; A newspaper trying to wipe its paws on the rug. Now Antonina goes to the store without a list and laughs: «My borscht in the flower reminds me I need to buy beets!»

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